Summing up the 10 Steps to Make Your Kids Smarter

  1. Music Lessons
  2. The Dumb Jock Is A Myth
  3. Don’t Read To Your Kids, Read With Them
  4. Sleep Deprivation Makes Kids Stupid
  5. IQ Isn’t Worth Much Without Self-Discipline
  6. Learning Is An Active Process
  7. Treats Can Be a Good Thing — At The Right Time
  8. Happy Kids = Successful Kids
  9. Peer Group Matters
  10. Believe In Them

One final note: Intelligence isn’t everything. Without ethics and empathy really smart people can be scary.

As P.J. O’Rourke once said:

Smart people don’t start many bar fights. But stupid people don’t build many hydrogen bombs.

So if you want to learn how to raise a happier kid go here and a more well-behaved kid go here.

I hope this helps your child be brilliant.

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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2017

Everyone at My Baby Compass would like to wish you a very Merry Christmas season and a happy and safe Happy New Year 2017.

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Believe In Them

Believing your kid is smarter than average makes a difference.

When teachers were told certain kids were sharper, those kids did better — even though the kids were selected at random.

Via The Heart of Social Psychology: A Backstage View of a Passionate Science:

…Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobson (1968) did the same study in a classroom, telling elementary school teachers that they had certain students in their class who were “academic spurters.” In fact, these students were selected at random. Absolutely nothing else was done by the researchers to single out these children. Yet by the end of the school year, 30 percent of the the children arbitrarily named as spurters had gained an average of 22 IQ points, and almost all had gained at least 10 IQ points.

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Peer Group Matters

Your genetics and the genetics of your partner have a huge effect on your kids. But the way you raise your kids?
Not nearly as much.

Via Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference:

On things like measures of intellectual ability and certain aspects of personality, the biological children are fairly similar to their parents. For the adopted kids, however, the results are downright strange. Their scores have nothing whatsoever in common with their adoptive parents: these children are no more similar in their personality or intellectual skills to the people who raised them, fed them, clothed them, read to them, taught them, and loved them for sixteen years than they are to any two adults taken at random off the street.

So what does have an enormous affect on your children’s behavior? Their peer group.

We usually only talk about peer pressure when it’s a negative but more often than not, it’s a positive.

Living in a nice neighborhood, going to solid schools and making sure your children hang out with good kids can make a huge difference.

What’s the easiest way for a college student to improve their GPA? Pick a smart roommate.

Via The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work:

One study of Dartmouth College students by economist Bruce Sacerdote illustrates how powerful this influence is. He found that when students with low grade-point averages simply began rooming with higher-scoring students, their grade-point averages increased. These students, according to the researchers, “appeared to infect each other with good and bad study habits—such that a roommate with a high grade-point average would drag upward the G.P.A. of his lower-scoring roommate.”

(More on the how others affect your behavior without you realizing it here.)

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Happy Kids = Successful Kids

Happier kids are more likely to turn into successful, accomplished adults.

Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:

…happiness is a tremendous advantage in a world that emphasizes performance. On average, happy people are more successful than unhappy people at both work and love. They get better performance reviews, have more prestigious jobs, and earn higher salaries. They are more likely to get married, and once married, they are more satisfied with their marriage.

And what’s the first step in creating happier kids? Being a happy parent.

(More on how to raise happy kids here.)

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Treats Can Be A Good Thing — At The Right Time

Overall, it would be better if kids ate healthy all the time. Research shows eating makes a difference in children’s grades:

Everybody knows you should eat breakfast the day of a big test. High-carb, high-fiber, slow-digesting foods like oatmeal are best, research shows. But what you eat a week in advance matters, too. When 16 college students were tested on attention and thinking speed, then fed a five-day high-fat, low-carb diet heavy on meat, eggs, cheese and cream and tested again, their performance declined.

There are always exceptions. No kid eats healthy all the time. But the irony is that kids often get “bad” foods at the wrong time.
Research shows caffeine and sugar can be brain boosters:

Caffeine and glucose can have beneficial effects on cognitive performance… Since these areas have been related to the sustained attention and working memory processes, results would suggest that combined caffeine and glucose could increase the efficiency of the attentional system.

They’re also potent rewards kids love.

So if kids are going to occasionally eat candy and soda maybe it’s better to give it to them while they study then when they’re relaxing.

(More on the best way for kids to study here.)

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Learning Is An Active Process

Baby Einstein and braintraining games don’t work.
In fact, there’s reason to believe they make kids dumber.

Via Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five:

The products didn’t work at all. They had no positive effect on the vocabularies of the target audience, infants 17-24 months. Some did actual harm. For every hour per day the children spent watching certain baby DVD’s and videos, the infants understood an average of six to eight fewer words than infants who did not watch them.

Real learning isn’t passive, it’s active.

What does Dan Coyle, author of The Talent Code recommend? Stop merely reading and test yourself:

Our brains evolved to learn by doing things, not by hearing about them. This is one of the reasons that, for a lot of skills, it’s much better to spend about two thirds of your time testing yourself on it rather than absorbing it. There’s a rule of two thirds. If you want to, say, memorize a passage, it’s better to spend 30 percent of your time reading it, and the other 70 percent of your time testing yourself on that knowledge.

(More on how to teach your child to be a hard worker in school here.)


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My Baby Compass Would Make a Great Christmas Present


We take our child’s development for granted. If a parent has concerns, she may hear,

“He will outgrow it.”

But is your child really meeting his milestones and progressing the way he should?

How would you know? I have the answer for you. My Baby Compass program is parent tested, professionally recommended and easy to use. It will give you the peace of mind you are looking for.

20% of children experience a developmental delay or disorder Early Intervention is the key to success. Let the My Baby Compass® Publication be your guide and be the insurance policy that your child is on the right track of development.


The My Baby Compass Kit contains 3 manuals, 14 booklets and a CD Rom. It helps your child: Think Speak, Move and Thrive. The program consists of three phases, Birth to Two, Two to Four and Four to Seven. It thoroughly covers identification of skills and activities in the areas of: speech (talks), hearing (hears), physical (moves), cognitive (understands),social/emotional (feels) and vision (contains skills only). The program can be started at any time by purchasing the individual manuals that matches your child’s age, however, if your child has been diagnosed with a developmental delay, it is best to start at the age level of his diagnosis.


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  • feeding
  • routines
  • how babies learn
  • developing speech sounds
  • understanding baby’s cries
  • vocabulary development
  • appropriate toys & activities
  • nursery rhymes
  • finger plays
  • music selections
  • recommended web sites
  • using sign language (144 sign illustrations)
  • parenting resources

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Each booklet is six pages with developmental milestones on one side and activities to bring out the skills on the other side. A parent will know if their child is on track within 15 -20 minutes. This program covers areas of development including:

  • individual sound development
  • expanding vocabulary development
  • toddler learning styles
  • potty training
  • temper tantrums
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  • nursery rhymes
  • finger plays
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My Baby Compass - Four to Seven Years

Book 3: Four to Seven
Each booklet is six pages with developmental milestones on one side and activities to bring out the skills on the other side. A parent will know if their child is on track within 15 -20 minutes. This program covers areas of development including: Getting to Know Your Preschooler, The Communication Process, Tracking Your Child’s Progress, My Child Did Not Meet a Milestone. Now What? and an Appendix that tells you how to get help with resources that will give you support. The manual covers topics such as:

  • maturation of sound development
  • grammar (syntax)
  • speaking and learning styles
  • social interaction
  • creative play
  • how preschoolers learn
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  • reading & writing skills
  • cognitive development
  • appropriate toys & activities
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  • music selections

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of the developmental checklists from Birth to Seven. This cd rom allows you to use an electronic method to keep track of your child’s progress. It can be used by parents and professionals as a screening process to note if a child is delayed in the areas of speech, language, cognitive, physical or social-emotional skills.- The CD ROM is available as part of the My Baby Compass Kit
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Why My Baby Compass Books?

What makes My Baby Compass program unique?

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How can My Baby Compass books benefit a child?


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What A Teacher Says about My Baby Compass – Four to Seven Years

After you look through this book, you’ll slap your forehead and say
“Why wasn’t this book here before?” Kathryn acts as your tour
guide through the experience of raising a four- to seven-year-old
child. My Baby Compass works for a parent on many levels – you
can use it to find age-appropriate games and activities; you can use
it to monitor your child’s development; finally, you can use it to
gain a deep understanding of the magically developing mind of the
young child. Regardless, it’s a book that will stay out on the counter
rather than being tucked away on your bookshelf.
— Dr. Glenn Baron, Fifth Grade Teacher

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IQ Isn’t Worth Much Without Self-Discipline

Self-discipline beats IQ at predicting who will be successful in life.

From Charles Duhigg’s excellent book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business:

Dozens of studies show that willpower is the single most important keystone habit for individual success… Students who exerted high levels of willpower were more likely to earn higher grades in their classes and gain admission into more selective schools. They had fewer absences and spent less time watching television and more hours on homework. “Highly self-disciplined adolescents outperformed their more impulsive peers on every academic-performance variable,” the researchers wrote. “Self-discipline predicted academic performance more robustly than did IQ. Self-discipline also predicted which students would improve their grades over the course of the school year, whereas IQ did not.… Self-discipline has a bigger effect on academic performance than does intellectual talent.”

Grades have more to do with conscientiousness than raw smarts.

Via How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character:

…conscientiousness was the trait that best predicted workplace success. What intrigues Roberts about conscientiousness is that it predicts so many outcomes that go far beyond the workplace. People high in conscientiousness get better grades in school and college; they commit fewer crimes; and they stay married longer. They live longer – and not just because they smoke and drink less. They have fewer strokes, lower blood pressure, and a lower incidence of Alzheimer’s disease.

Who does best in life? Kids with grit.

Via Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.

The best predictor of success, the researchers found, was the prospective cadets’ ratings on a noncognitive, nonphysical trait known as “grit”—defined as “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.”

(More on how to improve self-discipline here.)

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